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I am extraordinarily excited about the official launch of printed, finalized copies of The Gender Book! The Gender Book is a project by Robin Mack, Jay Mays, and rife (yes, my rife), who have been working on it for years, literally years, along with hundreds of folks who have contributed and offered constructive criticism along […]
Too much time away from you and I get hungry for your holes. There are so many metaphors for “fitting”—puzzle pieces and two halves, the children of the sun and moon from Hedwig—but that would be too trite and I’m too jaded to believe we’re “made for each other” or that it’s been you I’ve […]
I’m really excited about the Best Lesbian Erotica reading that Amy & I are putting together! We picked up two big boxes of BLE from Cleis Press headquarters today and are almost completely ready for the big day. The books look beautiful! Our lineup is incredible! I’m working on getting someone to record video—I do […]
Content warning: This story contains Daddy/boy play, lots of ownership/possession, force, and some humiliation. Everything depicted is between consenting adults, intentional, and previously negotiated to be well known that this is what we want to play with. The whole thing is based on an actual morning text message exchange with rife, and edited to make […]
In preparation for a big project that Rife & I are creating, we looked around to find a really good online quiz that talked about the different kinds of submissive identity and what they meant, but the only ones we found were … well, not so great. So we decided to make our own! Oh, […]
I have tried the Tomboi harness. I think it’s better than the RodeoH in fabric and fit—the RodeoH is so much cut like girl panties, not like boy briefs, that drives me nuts particularly. But just like the RodeoH, there’s no particular tight fabric that goes near my bits like on a regular harness (of […]
As published on Facebook, where I could tag at least 20 of ‘em. Dear family & friends, Especially friends from my childhood and high school years who have found me for whatever reasons on Facebook, and family with whom I’m not particularly close, and coworkers from previous jobs who I have perhaps never had this […]
The first thing that comes to mind when I consider what to tell you about this handsome Rug Beater Paddle by Kink Nerd Toys is something rife said recently: “I wouldn’t give it to a beginner.” It is a mean, intense instrument that hurts—more than you would expect—and can do some serious bruising. Check it […]
What’s your relationship with sugarbutch.net and Sinclair? What advice would you give your younger self about sex, gender, or relationships? What one resource has had the most impact on you, and why? Anything else to add?
Hello I’m back! I’ve returned from Seattle, after teaching a handful of classes and visiting friends and having a day-long meeting for a new exciting collaborative adventure (more news of that coming soon). Rife came with me and we brainstormed all sorts of things for another new exciting thing that he and I are going […]
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Rand Leather (on etsy or on follow on tumblr) is a one-man-show out of Maine where Matthias Rand makes all kinds of leather goods from scratch. In addition to these bondage cuffs and bow ties (which I’ll tell you more about in a minute), I’ve also seen chest harnesses, suspenders, and even leather dresses that […]
After the poem “The Last Time I Slept in This Bed” by Sara Peters If you’ve ever ripped apart your own body in order to find the missing sugar cubes you are certain you once stored in your throat, you know what it feels like to stay too long in a bed that no longer […]
I have long ranted and raved about Shilo, the pack and play dildo by New York Toy Collective, but I haven’t much mentioned Shilo’s Balls, offically called the Love Bump. I had my hesitations about the Love Bump. It’s kind of odd to be able to add and remove the balls from the dick, kind […]
During the month of November, in celebration of National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo), author (and my good buddy) Amy Butcher is giving away ebook copies of her award-winning Nanowrimo novel Paws for Consideration. Of course, if you get the ebook version, you will miss out on the awesome flip book—illustrated by Amy—in the upper corner […]
Today’s my day on The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories blog tour … BUT I am running around like a crazy person getting ready to Zoom into San Francisco and read at The Big Book of Orgasms release party (where I’m going to read Five Blow Jobs, FYI) Go right from the reading […]
Your body remembers how to split open a peach on the seam with your teeth. With your determination and another slice of whiskey. Cleaved palm heart like a matricide, nothing the silence and side-eye can ever overcome. Ever is a long time. More like to be for now, as the universe spins her giant eye […]
I’m coming to Seattle November 14-17, and I’m teaching FOUR classes in a row at Wild at Heart and also at the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture. I would absolutely love to see all of you in the audience, and I’d so appreciate all the wisdom you would bring to whatever topics you were interested […]
“I’m surprised more people don’t talk about biting. It’s pretty practical – I think it should be a conscious part of a dom’s tool kit. When I first apply pressure, her whole body goes tight like a bowstring. It makes me feel like I control every inch of her in that moment, and she’s balanced, […]
What’s your relationship with sugarbutch.net and Sinclair? What advice would you give your younger self about sex, gender, or relationships? What one resource has had the most impact on you, and why?