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Filed Under:Lifestyle / Happiness
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Archived Since:November 13, 2008

Blog Post Archive

Agree? In Order to Find Something, You Must Possess It Already

I often become preoccupied with an idea, and take great pleasure in seeing that idea appear over and over. One of the ideas that I’ve traced for years is the paradoxical idea — to put it in the most simple terms — that in order to find something, you must possess it already. Show More Summary

The Perfect Office Design — How Does Your Office Measure Up?

I’m a huge fan of the work of Christopher Alexander, and yesterday, for the hundredth time, I found myself urging someone to read his book, A Pattern Language: Towns, Buildings, Construction. This strange, brilliant, fascinating book...Show More Summary

Video: How Other People Affect Your Habits, and You Affect Their Habits

I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the various strategies that we can use for habit-formation. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness. If we have habits that work for us,...Show More Summary

Are You Good at Making Excuses?

I was laughing as I read this piece from the satire magazine, The Onion: “Personal Trainer Impressed by Man’s Improved Excuses.” It purports to be an interview with a personal trainer who’s impressed by one of his clients — a guy who...Show More Summary

Which Kind of Collector Are You: Aim to Complete, or Yearn to Possess?

“Collectors are basically of two kinds; those who aim at completing a series, and those who long to possess things that have bewitched them. The former, of whom stamp and coin collectors are the obvious examples, enjoy the pleasures of a limited aim, and its comforting certainties. Show More Summary

Do You Ever Yield to a Temptation Out of Concern for Someone Else?

I love all fables, paradoxes, koans, teaching stories,  and aphorisms. That’s one reason I love to keep my Secrets of Adulthood – my own contribution. For this reason, when I was last wandering through the library, I couldn’t resistShow More Summary

Secret of Adulthood: I Wish I Could Not Wish

From Further Secrets of Adulthood. Do you ever feel this way? I love any kind of koan, paradox, fables, or teaching story.

Quiz Yourself: What Kind of Play Do You Enjoy?

Every Wednesday is Tip Day — or Quiz Day. This Wednesday: Quiz: What’s your personality — for play? As I’ve worked on the subjects of habits and happiness, the importance of play has becoming increasingly apparent to me. For a happy life, it’s not enough to have an absence of bad feelings — we also need sources of good feelings. Show More Summary

Video: Are You Struggling To Change a Habit? This May Explain Why

I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the various strategies that we can use for habit-formation. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness. If we have habits that work for us,...Show More Summary

Did the Quiz Help You Decide If You’re Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel? Some Thoughts

Last week, I unveiled my Four Tendencies quiz, which helps people determine their Tendency. I developed this framework as part of my research on habits for my book Better Than Before. I’m very gratified that so many thousands of people have taken the quiz — and even more gratified by the notes at the end. Show More Summary

“Humor Is…the Right Way To Exist Among the Contradictions, Paradoxes, and Absurdities of Life”

“Humor is the antidote to overthinking. It’s a way of saying that life is paradoxical. Humor contains contradictions; it does not resolve them but revels in them. It says that the right way to exist among the contradictions, paradoxes,...Show More Summary

Do You Wish You Spent Less Time Watching “Potato-Chip News”?

I just read Stephen Grosz’s The Examined Life: How We Lose Ourselves and Find Ourselves. It’s a series of essays by a practicing psychotherapist about some of his observations about human nature. In his discussion of one patient’s experiences,...Show More Summary

5 Tips for Becoming a Better Listener

I’m a big fan of Elizabeth Bernstein‘s work in the Wall Street Journal, and she wrote an interesting piece, How Well Are You Listening? We’re naturally bad listeners, even with loved ones; steps to avoid burn-out. Here are some of the key steps she outlines, for being a better listener: 1. Show More Summary

Ta-Da! The Launch of My Quiz on the Four Tendencies. Learn About Yourself!

Of everything I learned about habits and human nature from working on my book Better Than Before, the most challenging thing I figured out — and the insight I’m most proud of — is my Four Tendencies framework. (See below for a quickShow More Summary

Interested in Habits? Want a Free Bonus Gift? Of Course!

My new book, Better Than Before, explains how we can master our habits. In it, I reveal the secret to changing habits—really! It turns out that changing habits isn’t that hard, when you know what to do. The book hits the shelves on March 17, 2015. Pre-orders really help a book, by building buzz among the media, booksellers, and readers. Show More Summary

Thank You, Readers, For All Your Good Wishes

I want to say thank you to everyone who wrote me, one way or another, to send good wishes to me and my family after my announcement that my husband is cured — yes, that’s right, cured — of hepatitis C. I wasn’t able to answer every comment...Show More Summary

Today Is One of the Happiest Days of My Life. Here’s Why.

Today is one of the very happiest days of my life. I was happy when my two daughters were born, but having a baby is such a tremendous new responsibility; I was extremely happy, but also awestruck and slightly terrified. I was happy on my wedding day, but I was also worried about how the whole day would unfold. Show More Summary

Fill in the Blank: X Is a Good Servant But a Bad Master

I love to collect variations on phrases, such as the “X is the new Y.” “Orange is the new black,” “Breakfast is the new lunch,” “Forties are the new thirties,” “Halloween is the new Christmas,” or–and I was inspired by this one for Happier...Show More Summary

Like Jung and Wharton, Do You Remember When You First Knew Yourself?

In my writing about habits and happiness, I keep coming back to the same idea: to shape our habits, to build our happiness, we have to start with a knowledge of ourselves — our own nature, our own interest, our own temperament. It sounds so easy to know yourself — after all, you hang out with yourself all day! But it’s very, very challenging. Show More Summary

“Oddly, Though, Lists Are Reassuring.”

“Oddly, though, lists are reassuring. We become aware of this if we scrupulously follow a recipe, which is essentially a list of ingredients and actions; but if we give this ‘list’ too much importance, we leave no room for the imagination.” —Jean-Claude...Show More Summary

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