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A Little Happier: Sometimes, It’s Better to Help than to Sympathize.

Years ago, during the hubbub surrounding preparations for a wedding, a friend’s silent example of taking action, rather than just talking, has stuck with me for my whole life. Sometimes, it’s better to help than to sympathize. As the...Show More Summary

Why I Named the Four Tendencies the “Four Tendencies.”

Since college, when I first read it, I’ve been haunted by an observation by Freud, where he notes that the names of the three Goddesses of Fate mean “the accidental within the decrees of destiny,” “the inevitable,” and “the fateful tendencies...Show More Summary

Podcast 13O: Seven Myths of Happiness.

Note to Readers and Listeners: I wanted to let you know that Elizabeth and I recorded this episode before the shocking and despicable events in Charlottesville, Virginia, of August 12, 2017, and following. That’s why we don’t mention it. Show More Summary

A Four Tendencies Dilemma: What Would You Do with the Office Coffee Mug?

Have  I mentioned that my book The Four Tendencies is coming out in September? Oh right, I think I have. Well, I’m gearing up for my book tour, and thinking about my book talk. I’m considering opening my talk by describing a familiar situation that illustrates how differently the Four Tendencies see the world. Show More Summary

A Little Happier: Don’t Sleep Through the Beautiful Moments.

This moment happened many, many years ago, when I was first married to my husband Jamie. It was over in five minutes, and I was back asleep in bed, but I learned a crucial lesson (which, sadly, I often forget to apply). Have you ever slept through a beautiful moment? This mini-episode is brought to you by the Platinum Card from American Express. Show More Summary

Agree? “Sometimes, If You Want to Be Happy, You’ve Got to Run Away to Bath and Marry a Punk Rocker.”

“Sometimes, if you want to be happy, you’ve got to run away to Bath and marry a punk rocker. Sometimes you’ve got to dye your hair cobalt blue or wander remote islands in Sicily, or cook your way through Mastering the Art of French Cooking...Show More Summary

Agree, Disagree? “Habits of the Mind Far Outweigh Habits of the Body.”

Interview: Heather Harpham. A friend recently gave me a copy of Heather Harpham’s new memoir Happiness: The Crooked Little Road to Semi-Ever After, and I whipped through it. First of all — the title. Of course. Plus, I love memoirs generally,...Show More Summary

Podcast 129: September Is the Other January, the Fun of Post-It Notes, and What “They” Think.

Update: I’m excited because my new book, The Four Tendencies, hits the shelves in just 34 days. So close, and yet so far! Elizabeth and I are considering planning a meet-up with listeners and readers on Sunday, September 17, around 6:00 p.m. Show More Summary

Habit Strategies and Tips for Rebels

After my book Better Than Before hit the shelves, I was surprised by how many Rebels contacted me to request more information about how to harness their Tendency. As I was writing Better Than Before, I’d assumed that a) Rebels wouldn’t...Show More Summary

A Little Happier: Why Andy Warhol (and I) Want To Have a Boss–on Retainer.

I agree wholeheartedly with Andy Warhol. Sometimes I wish I had a boss who could tell me what to do, so I wouldn’t have to figure it out myself. Often, for me, the toughest part is figuring out what to tell myself to do. Here’s the actual...Show More Summary

Want to Read Books that Show Examples of the Four Tendencies? Revealed!

Revealed! My book club recommendations for August. Newsflash: I’ve decided to change the way I suggest books for this book club. Instead of suggesting three books each month (one about happiness and human nature; one work of children’s...Show More Summary

Podcast 128: Connect with TV, Conquering the Snooze Alarm–and Is It Possible to be a Mix of the Four Tendencies?

Update: Elizabeth is excited because tomorrow on the “Happier in Hollywood” podcast, she and Sarah talk about a very common happiness stumbling block: self-criticism. When is it helpful, and when is it toxic? I’m excited because my new book, The Four Tendencies, hits the shelves in just 41 days. Show More Summary

A Mother’s Brilliant Strategy for Dealing with Rebel Pre-schooler

In Very Special Episode 120 of the “Happier” podcast, Elizabeth and I discussed listeners’ question about the Four Tendencies. This was a real treat for me, because I love talking about this subject so much. Starting at about minuteShow More Summary

A Little Happier: My Daughter’s Ex-Boyfriend’s Mother Knew the Right Thing to Say.

I love it when people know the right thing to say. At the party following my daughter Eliza’s high-school graduation, her ex-boyfriend’s mother found exactly the right words to sum up their hard-to-put-into-words relationship. She said...Show More Summary

Pre-order “The Four Tendencies” and Get Access Now to the 5-Part Video Series

I have exciting news (at least, it’s exciting for me). To thank readers who pre-order The Four Tendencies, I worked with a great production team to create a 5-part videos series. Together, these five videos provide a great overview of...Show More Summary

Do You Believe You Can Improve Human Nature Before You’ve Changed The System? And Vice Versa.

“Progress is not an illusion, it happens, but it is slow and invariably disappointing…Consequently two viewpoints are always tenable. The one, how can you improve human nature until you have changed the system? The other, what is the...Show More Summary

Podcast 127: Make or Accept a Relationship “Repair Attempt,” A Sharpie-Related Travel Hack, and a Vow to Write More Legibly.

Update:  Tomorrow, I get to make a cameo appearance on episode 11 of the “Happier in Hollywood” podcast to talk about my favorite subject these days: the Four Tendencies, and how knowing your Tendency can help you make progress on aShow More Summary

Help! Have Ideas for a Four Tendencies Quiz for Kids?

I’m getting geared up for publication of my book The Four Tendencies — planning the book tour, getting ready to launch the major pre-order bonus (stay tuned for that!), thinking about my book talk. I can’t wait for the book to go out...Show More Summary

A Little Happier: Sometimes, You Feel Regret Either Way.

As I’ve mentioned many times, I love examples of someone knowing the right thing to say. In this case, a doctor said the right thing to my friend — when she admitted to feeling a little let down by the news that she was going to give birth to a boy. Show More Summary

“The Colour of the Leaves in Autumn Would Be Nothing Without the Feeling that Accompanies It.”

“The colour of the leaves in autumn would be nothing without the feeling that accompanies it.” –William Hazlitt, “The Indian Jugglers” in Selected Writings My color obsession continues. I see colors — and references to colors — everywhere. Show More Summary

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