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Filed Under:Lifestyle / Happiness
Posts on Regator:1620
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Archived Since:November 13, 2008

Blog Post Archive

“Habit Change Is Easiest When People Move House or Undergo Some Life Transition.”

Habits interview: Wendy Wood. I was very pleased to get the chance to interview Professor and Vice Dean Wendy Wood, because she’s one of the top experts in the field of habits, and has done much of the most interesting research in the area. For instance, it was her research that showed that about people repeat about 40% of their … ?

Are You a “People-Pleaser?” What Do You Feel Obliged To Do?

I posted yesterday about “Do you resist when anyone asks or tell you what to do?”, about some questions I had about the Rebel Tendency, as part of the Four Tendencies framework I’ve created. The  Four Tendencies are part of what I discuss in Better Than Before, my book on habit change. A key piece of self-knowledge — which is … ?

Do You Resist When Anyone Asks or Tells You To Do Something?

It may have been a while since I posted on the Four Tendencies, but have no doubt, I’m still obsessed with this subject. I came up with the  Four Tendencies framework as part of my work on Better Than Before, my book on habit change. There, I reveal the secret of habit formation. Really. Ready to hear the mystery solved? … ?

Can a Vine Behave like an Olive Tree? No.

A vine cannot behave olively, nor an olive tree vinely—it is impossible, inconceivable. No more can a human being wholly efface his native disposition. –Epictetus, Discourses, 2.20.18 This is what has struck me most in my study of habits. We can’t change our fundamental nature. We have to form the habits that work for us. An Owl shouldn’t bother trying … ?

Video: For Habits, the Strategy of Abstaining, or, How To Be Free From French Fries.

I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the various strategies that we can use for habit-formation. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness. If we have habits that work for us, we’re much more likely to be happy, healthy, productive, and creative. My forthcoming book, Better Than Before, describes the multiple … ?

Want To Break that Good Habit, Just This Once? How To Avoid Backsliding.

I’m working on Better Than Before, a book about how we can change our habits. The most fascinating subject ever. In it, one thorny question that I tackle is: How can we make an exception to a good habit, without disrupting that good habit altogether? After all, sometimes we do want to break a habit—to take advantage of a rare … ?

“If You’re Always Future-Oriented, It Tends To Come At the Expense of the Present Moment.”

Habits interview with Chris Guillebeau. I’ve known Chris for years. I don’t remember how we met, originally, but I’m a big fan of all his bestselling books and last year, I spoke at his terrific World Domination Summit in Portland. I’m very excited for him, because his latest book is coming out tomorrow — I love the book, and I … ?

Why the Issues that We Ignore Often Come Back to Plague Us.

Novelist Paul Auster wrote a memoir, Hand to Mouth: A Chronicle of Early Failure. He writes, “By the end of 1977, I was feeling trapped, desperate to find a solution. I had spent my whole life avoiding the subject of money, and now, suddenly, I could think of nothing else.” This reminded me of a thought-provoking interview I did with … ?

“A Rush of Superiority Which Afflicts All Those Who Are Astir Earlier Than Other People.”

“He looked up at the grey house; all the blinds were down, and he instantly despised his guests for being still asleep, in a rush of that superiority which afflicts all those who are astir earlier than other people.” – Vita Sackville-West, The Edwardians I’m an early riser, and I love getting up early — and I also definitely feel … ?

Before & After: “Odd Days, I Do Everything I Can for Mom. Even Days, for Me.”

I’m writing my next book, Better Than Before, about how we make and break habits– an issue  very relevant to happiness. Each week, I post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. To hear … ?

Secret of Adulthood: Don’t Believe Everything You Think.

Further Secrets of Adulthood:   Agree, disagree? This reminds me of the ten categories of loopholes. With a lot of loopholes — especially those in the Questionable Assumptions category — if you look at them closely, you realize that you don’t really believe what you think. I have a chapter on the Strategy of Loophole-Spotting in Better Than Before, my … ?

Agree, Disagree? September Is the Other January.

Even though I haven’t been in school for a long time, for me, September  marks the beginning of a new year.  Orange is the new black, breakfast is the new lunch, Monday is the new Thursday, pork is the other white meat, and September is the other January. (And yes, it’s still September, even though most schools start in August … ?

Revealed! Book Club Choices for September.

Because nothing boosts happiness more than a great book, each month, I suggest: · one outstanding book about happiness or habits · one outstanding work of children’s or young-adult literature–I have a crazy passion for kidlit · one eccentric pick–a widely admired and excellent book that I love, yes, but one that may not appeal to everyone Shop at the … ?

“From the Gods Who Sit in Grandeur/Grace Comes Somehow Violent.”

Zeus, who guided men to think, who has laid it down that wisdom comes alone through suffering. Still there drips in sleep against the heart grief of memory; against our pleasure we are temperate. From the gods who sit in grandeur grace comes somehow violent. – Aeschylus, “Agamemnon,” translated by Richard Lattimore I’ve remembered the last two lines of this … ?

“Instead of Feeling That I’m Never Going to Finish…I Can See Large Chunks Getting Done.”

I’m writing my next book, Better Than Before, about how we make and break habits– an issue  very relevant to happiness. Each week, I post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. To hear … ?

Putting Off Some Horrible Task? Try These 7 Tips.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day, or List Day, or Quiz Day. This Wednesday: Seven tips for forcing yourself to tackle a dreaded task. It’s a Secret of Adulthood: Happiness doesn’t always make me feel happy. Often, I know I’d be happier if I do something I really don’t feel like doing. Making that phone call. Dealing with tech support. Writing … ?

Video: For Habits, the Strategy of the Clean Slate.

I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the various strategies that we can use for habit-formation. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness. If we have habits that work for us, we’re much more likely to be happy, healthy, productive, and creative. My forthcoming book, Better Than Before, describes the multiple … ?

A New Experience: I Was in the Napa Valley Earthquake.

I had a profound experience yesterday. My husband and I, and much of my family, were in Napa Valley for my cousin’s wedding. At 3:20 a.m., I was lying in bed awake, because the time change meant that my body considered it past my usual wake-up time of 6:00. As I was lying there, I felt the earthquake hit. My … ?

Guess: Which Virtue Gives Other Virtues Their “Principal Lustre”?

“Self-command is not only itself a great virtue, but from it all the other virtues seem to derive their principal lustre.” –Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments Agree, disagree? I was trying to figure out what Smith means, exactly, and I think it’s this: when we consider the possessions of virtues, without self-command, they shrink. Show More Summary

Before & After: “The Thought of Smoking Made Me Sick.”

I’m writing my next book, Better Than Before, about how we make and break habits– an issue  very relevant to happiness. Each week, I’ll post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. To hear … ?

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