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Further Secrets of Adulthood: The more I think about happiness, the more I value enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is a form of social courage – it’s safer to criticize and scoff than to praise and embrace — and I’ve decided that I’d rather be “enthusiastic” than “confident.” I have a patron saint for enthusiasm. Can you guess it? Julia Child! (This … ?
Every Wednesday is List Day, or Tip Day, or Quiz Day. This Wednesday: Four types of friends. Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that a key — perhaps the key — to happiness is strong relationships with other people. We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; … ?
This week’s video story: Everyday life in Utopia. How I love this phrase! I want to tattoo it on my ankle, paint it on the wall above my desk, and wear it on a T-shirt. Everyday life in Utopia! This is my new motto. I’d told my daughter about the word “utopia” and what it meant. Some days later, … ?
“Although to be driven back upon oneself is an uneasy affair at best, rather like trying to cross a border with borrowed credentials, it seems to me now the one condition necessary to the beginnings of real self-respect. Most of our platitudes notwithstanding, self-deception remains the most difficult deception. The tricks that work on others count or nothing in that … ?
Did I mention that the paperback of Happier at Home comes out in a few weeks? Oh right, I think maybe I did. The publication of a paperback is a weirdly thrilling moment for an author, and I’m especially looking forward to my book tour. I love to meet readers face to face, so I hope to see many of … ?
I’m writing my next book, Before and After, about how we make and break habits–an issue very relevant to happiness. Each week, I post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. This week’s story … ?
I have many pet words, such as winkle, chirk, and mellifluous, and one of my favorites is lagniappe: something given as a bonus or extra gift. That’s the extra doughnut in the baker’s dozen, or the prize in the Cracker Jack’s, or the tote bag you get for coming to an event. Now I’ve prepared a lagniappe for you. The paperback … ?
Every Wednesday is List Day, or Tip Day, or Quiz Day. This Wednesday: How to spot a psychopath. I love finding–or inventing–ways to categorize people. I agree with philosopher Isaiah Berlin, who observed, “Every classification throws...Show More Summary
This week’s video story: I’m talking about One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I’ve Learned about Everyone’s Struggle to Be Singular by my friend Abigail Pogrebin. I’ve always been fascinated (and a little envious) about the relationship between identical twins. If you want to learn more about the book, check out the book trailer … ?
Because nothing boosts happiness more than a great book, each month, I suggest: · one outstanding book about happiness · one outstanding work of children’s or young-adult literature–I have a crazy passion for kidlit · one eccentric pick–an excellent book that I love, yes, but one that may not appeal to everyone I’ll post these recommendations here, or to make … ?
“Arrears of small things to be attended to, if allowed to accumulate, worry and depress like unpaid debts. The main work should always stand aside for these, not these for the main work, as large debts should stand aside for small ones, or truth for common charity and good feeling. If we attend continually and promptly to the little that … ?
I’m writing my next book, Before and After, about how we make and break habits–an issue very relevant to happiness. Each week, I’ll post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. This week’s before-and-after … ?
Further Secrets of Adulthood: It took me a long time to master this Secret of Adulthood. I have a real tendency to put off small chores like changing lightbulbs, even though for me, burned out bulbs are a broken window. My senior year of college, I lived with a friend who was the same way. We’d joke about it. … ?
Back by popular demand…some ideas for dealing with difficult people over the holidays. I’ve posted this before, but every year around this time, there’s a spike in interest about ways to handle tricky situations with relatives, neighbors, and friends. Consider: 1. Think about how topics that seem innocuous to you might upset someone else. You may think you’re showing a … ?
This week’s video story: Am I wasting my youth? Of course, as an Upholder, I wouldn’t have dreamed of leaving the library to go to Toad’s Place. Plus, as I now acknowledge (though I didn’t then), I’m not very interested in music. Still, it was a memorable moment. I think that we too rarely ask ourselves these kinds of … ?
“No matter how full a reservoir of maxims one may possess, and no matter how good one’s sentiments may be, if one has not taken advantage of every concrete opportunity to act, one’s character may remain entirely unaffected for the better.” – William James, Psychology: The Briefer Course This observation is very important to the study of habits. No matter … ?
Today is the fiftieth anniversary of the assassination of President John Kennedy. This anniversary means a lot to me, because I’ve always felt a particular interest in John F. Kennedy–and much more so, after I wrote his biography, Forty Ways to Look at JFK. Surprisingly, perhaps, I didn’t feel particularly enthusiastic about Kennedy; I was fascinated by him. More than … ?
I’m deep into Before and After, my book about habit-formation. One of the sixteen strategies that I’ve identified is the Strategy of Treats (which will probably be the favorite strategy of many people). By “treat,” I mean something that you give yourself as a…well, treat. I’ve been thinking a lot about treats, and of course, I continued to be obsessed … ?
This week’s video story: Do what you love, and then your friends hire you. Perhaps I didn’t quite complete my thought on the video. When you do what you love, even in a non-job context, you make friends with other people who share your interests; as they move forward in the world, they help you move forward. (Of course, … ?
Assay: I’ve identified sixteen strategies to use for fostering habits, and one strategy is the Strategy of Distraction. It’s a highly effective strategy, particularly for people who are attracted to potato-chip news. I’m not attracted to potato-chip news, myself, so it took me a while to understand this challenge. Show More Summary