Blog Profile / xoJane

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I Got Laid Off a Week Ago, and it Took a Random Drug Commercial For Me to Finally Cry About it

6 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

Last Friday I lost my job. My boss called me at 5pm. I ducked out of the Starbucks where I’d relocated to work for the day to take the call. It was 80-some odd degrees outside and on the bench beside me a homeless man was scratching at a dried patch of something crusty on his fly. As the truth sunk... Continue reading

I Spent a Week Writing Love Letters to Random Strangers and Leaving Them Around New York for People to Find

7 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

Lately, I’ve been on a bender. An inspiration-bender, where you gorge on inspirational advice from the Internet, and then wonder what the hell you’re doing with your life. Perhaps you’re familiar with it.An inspiration-bender is similar to other kinds of benders in that there’s usually an... Continue reading

Getting Pregnant Forced Me to Quit Drinking, and It's Been an Enlightening Experience

7 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

If the way pregnancy is portrayed in media was the only way the general public learned what being pregnant was like, what we would believe is this: 1) You immediately puke, 2) You pee on pregnancy test and either sob on the floor or explode with joy, and 3) You can no longer indulge in alcoholic... Continue reading

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I'm a Fat Bulimic

9 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

My eating disorder started, like so many others, with a diet. I lost over 30 pounds through a combination of exercising and increasingly restricting my calories. For me and a lot of other disordered eaters, calorie-counting is addictive. Eating less was an exciting, challenging, horrible game.... Continue reading

We Split Up, I Got the Dog, And I Still Feel Kind of Guilty About It

10 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

We adopted him just before moving in together in January 2013. I was under-employed at the time: in the process of being laid off from my nonprofit job and working from home after a bizarre workplace harassment incident. At the time, it seemed like a perfect situation. I had plenty of... Continue reading

The 10 Shadiest Memes And Tweets From The MTV VMAs

10 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

The MTV VMA’s were WEEIIRRD AF and the public wasted no time coming through with ruthless memes. Everyone knows commercial breaks are designated time to check Twitter and Instagram, so your girl took screenshots on screenshots on screenshots.In case you needed a refresher, the three main targets... Continue reading

Why I Still Use my "Dead Name" When Referring to Myself in the Past

11 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

When I was first made aware that a “dead name” referred to a trans person’s assigned birth name, I was struck by how morbid the term sounded; but as I learned more about many trans people’s experiences, the necessity of eliminating dead names became clearer. Referring to trans people as our dead... Continue reading

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Found My Birth Father And Was Threatened With Legal Action

12 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

From the age of 13, I have known who my biological father was. One day, while I was pilfering through my mothers "important papers," I discovered a marriage certificate between her and my dad, dated 2 years after my birth. By this time, my parents had been divorced for 4 years, and my dad... Continue reading

On Growing Up as an Unskinny Asian, And How the Pressure to be Thin Almost Took Over My Life

13 hours agoLifestyle : xoJane

Growing up as an Asian American, I knew I would never have the long legs or double-lidded blue eyes of the models that graced the TV screens and magazines I saw. Hell, I might not even have the tan skin if my melanin continued to refuse to cooperate. I recognized it would be biologically impossible... Continue reading

6 Stories We Didn't Write About, But That You Might Want To Comment On, Including Gun Control And Pope Francis's LGBTQ Blessing

yesterdayLifestyle : xoJane

Remember some of those sections we used to have when we had that massive staff? Like good old xoNews? I liked that. It made me feel like when I would go onto xoJane as though I were a reader (I used to do this with Jane magazine too, walk by a newsstand and see if I was intrigued to pick it up and... Continue reading

xoBook Club: Elizabeth Winder Talks Lyricism, Poetry, and the Scent of Sylvia Plath's Shampoo

2 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

On the last page of Pain, Parties, Work: Sylvia Plath in New York, Summer 1953, I was left with a sense of Winder's devotion to her subject. This is a love letter, I thought, not just to Plath, but to beauty and to the women who sought it out in the 1950's. I closed the book. Then I... Continue reading

OUTFIT OF THE WEEK: Underneath It All

2 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

I really, really love lingerie. Yes, I swoon over Agent Provocateur's complicated lace ensembles that are way, way out of my budget, but I go just as crazy for comfortable yet über-pretty day-to-day pieces, too.I thoroughly believe that comfortable, seamless, sexy lingerie is of utmost importance... Continue reading

Say Whatever in This Reality Deficient Open Thread

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

I had a meeting this week in a big corporate office building conference room. I was excited to meet the people and excited about what we were discussing and I was sure I was coming off really hyper and nervous. Instead, the feedback my boss got was that I was easy going. Easy going?! It's like... Continue reading

A Kentucky County Clerk Has Chosen Same-Sex Marriage As Her Personal Hill To Die On

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

Stop me if you've heard this story before: The Supreme Court of the United States rules that same-sex marriage is in fact a right, and a county clerk decides that it's her personal mission to refuse to provide marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Okay, so, you might have heard it a few times,... Continue reading

My Whiteness And My Blackness Are Not Reconcilable

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

Almost any given object can be split in half with each half making up 50% of whole.I can only think of one exception.When someone asks if I am half black or half white, I don’t want to give the comfortable response they are looking for. Any answer would imply that my Whiteness and Blackness are... Continue reading

I Had Lice For 10 Years Because My Dad Was a Hoarder

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

I was recently getting a haircut when the women asked me “Does your scalp ever feel itchy?” In less than a second I went through intense feelings of fear, shame, embarrassment and resentment before squeaking out “No” as though it was a lie (even though it wasn’t). She said “I’m just... Continue reading

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Fell In Love With My Co-Worker Who Has a Girlfriend

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

Looking back, it perplexes me that it happened -- but it's also the oldest tale in the book.Black rimmed glasses on the bridge of your nose, flannel button down tucked into your jeans (A Brooklyn lumbersexual, I thought, rolling my eyes), I wasn't attracted to you the first time I saw you.... Continue reading

These 3 Products Have Been Keeping Me Feeling Healthy All Summer

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

I've always been prone to illness and annoying allergies, but in the last year or so I've managed to get my immune system under control, and breezed through cold and flu season with nary a runny nose. This summer though, I've fallen (temporarily) under the weather a few times, whether it was... Continue reading

Policing Other People's Queer Identities is an Asshole Move

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

The last time I was in my hometown, it was after a shitty semester of college. I had four months before I could leave my (equally shitty) hometown and head off to a semester abroad. A few weeks after getting home, I met up with a longtime friend from high school with whom I was in a bad place.It... Continue reading

IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Husband and I Had an Abortion But Can Never Tell Anyone

3 days agoLifestyle : xoJane

I grew up in a religious home where I was raised according to Christian values. I was fiercely devoted to the church – I believed marriage was for a man and woman only, abortion was murder and sex before marriage would be a grave dishonor to my future husband (although it turns out he actually... Continue reading

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