Further Secrets of Adulthood: Agree, disagree? This reminds me of the ten categories of loopholes. With a lot of loopholes — especially those in the Questionable Assumptions category — if you look at them closely, you realize that you don’t really believe what you think. I have a chapter on the Strategy of Loophole-Spotting in Better Than Before, my … ?
For two weeks, a self-imposed strike From clicking the button marked “Like.” Now Schmutzie’s agreed To speak of her feed And chat with a queer and a dyke. Schmutzie has been experimenting with not clicking the “Like” button on Facebook, and inspired by her, Kyeli and I have too. Here’s what we’ve noticed about our(...)
Even though I haven’t been in school for a long time, for me, September marks the beginning of a new year. Orange is the new black, breakfast is the new lunch, Monday is the new Thursday, pork is the other white meat, and September is the other January. (And yes, it’s still September, even though most schools start in August … ?
One of the themes in this blog over the years is goal contagion, which is the idea that we often adopt the goals of the people around us. See someone helping others, and you suddenly want to be helpful. See someone being aggressive, and it makes you more likely to engage aggressively with others. What about apathy? read more
For over 25 years I wandered the world. Along the way, […] The post 12 Things I Learned from Wandering the World appeared first on Change Your Life | The Change Blog.
The amount of stuff we own these days is staggering. The average American home size has grown from 1,000 square feet to almost 2,500 square feet. Personal storage generates more than $24 billion in revenue each year. Reports indicate we consume twice as many material goods today as we did 50 years ago. All while carrying, on average, nearly […]
I’ve loved and collected quotations since I bought my first journal at age 12 many moons ago. You see, before the internet, we had books and libraries, paper and pens but we still loved quotations – or quotes for short. They were just...Show More Summary
Because nothing boosts happiness more than a great book, each month, I suggest: · one outstanding book about happiness or habits · one outstanding work of children’s or young-adult literature–I have a crazy passion for kidlit · one eccentric pick–a widely admired and excellent book that I love, yes, but one that may not appeal to everyone Shop at the … ?
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes […] The post How I Opened My Heart to Change and What Showed Up When I Did appeared first on Change Your Life | The Change Blog.
Zeus, who guided men to think, who has laid it down that wisdom comes alone through suffering. Still there drips in sleep against the heart grief of memory; against our pleasure we are temperate. From the gods who sit in grandeur grace comes somehow violent. – Aeschylus, “Agamemnon,” translated by Richard Lattimore I’ve remembered the last two lines of this … ?
When we use language, it seems so easy to understand what other people are saying that it is hard to appreciate the complexity of the act of carrying on a conversation. Obviously, we miscommunicate at times, but most of the time, we do a good job of understanding what other people mean and making ourselves understood. read more
I’m writing my next book, Better Than Before, about how we make and break habits– an issue very relevant to happiness. Each week, I post a before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here. To hear … ?
A friend of mine, Karen, is one of those people who se […] The post 4 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others appeared first on Change Your Life | The Change Blog.
The other day, I was reading a book in which a woman was described as “businesslike.” I instantly knew what the author meant: cold, no-nonsense, efficient, and without kindness or empathy. I did a double-take. Why does “businesslike” mean cold and heartless? I started writing about this, but I got carried away by my passionate(...)
A while ago an ex-colleague of mine posted on a social […] The post Road to Detoxification appeared first on Change Your Life | The Change Blog.
Every Wednesday is Tip Day, or List Day, or Quiz Day. This Wednesday: Seven tips for forcing yourself to tackle a dreaded task. It’s a Secret of Adulthood: Happiness doesn’t always make me feel happy. Often, I know I’d be happier if I do something I really don’t feel like doing. Making that phone call. Dealing with tech support. Writing … ?
One topic I have taken up in this blog from time-to-time is the impact of video games on behavior. There are both positive and negative consequences associated with video game play. One area where it has been hard to draw firm conclusions is in the area of aggression and risky behavior. read more
“When the beginnings of self-destruction enter the hear […] The post What 3 Dead Authors Taught Me About Living appeared first on Change Your Life | The Change Blog.
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? Here you are, trying to build a meaningful and fulfilling life for yourself. But it seems like you’re forever caught up in the overwhelming minutiae of daily existence. You want to start your mornings with...Show More Summary
I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the various strategies that we can use for habit-formation. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness. If we have habits that work for us, we’re much more likely to be happy, healthy, productive, and creative. My forthcoming book, Better Than Before, describes the multiple … ?