I frequently describe sexual identity as a layer cake or a combo platter. There's who you wanna do (desire), who you're actually doing (behavior), and who you tell people you're doing (identity). Like I said in Savage Love a few years back... Sexual identity is a combo platter. Show More Summary
JOE NEWTON Yesterday, I found my 5-year-old son putting things up his butt in the bath. This isn't the first time—and it's not just a "Hey! There's a hole here! Let's put things in there!" kind of thing. The little dude was rocking quite the stiffy while he did it. Show More Summary
Editor's Note: To embrace "diversity," ABC is greenlighting the Dan Savage-inspired and anti-Catholic sitcom "The Real O'Neals." You have to wonder if there’s anything Dan Savage could do that would cost him the love of the media elites. Show More Summary
By Senior Editor Lesley Savage Dr. Ruth Westheimer has been talking about sex for almost four decades, and she has no intention of stopping anytime soon. Her latest book, The Doctor Is In: Dr. Ruth on Love, Life and Joie de Vivre, is...Show More Summary
By Senior Editor Lesley Savage ‘What is love?” It’s a popular albeit complicated question, and according to Google was the most-searched phrase in all of 2012. Webster’s has several definitions for the word, including: “strong affection...Show More Summary
Joe Newton My wife is one of those women who need manual stimulation of her clit during sex to climax. Before meeting her, I had several long-term girlfriends, and not one needed to do this in order to climax. Before we got married, I explained that I wanted to explore and push the boundaries, and she promised me that would happen. Show More Summary
Savage, we love you. With TV shows like American Idol, Revenge, and The Mindy Project getting cancelled recently, that just means there's going to be more room for the network prime time lineup this Fall! And while we'll miss some of the cancelled series, we're pretty pumped for what's about to come next. Specifically Dan Savage's new ABC [...]
We've always loved you Cory, but we've still got some loose ends from YOUR show, aka Boy Meets World! You know all those questions you have about upcoming episodes, reunions and past characters like the ever-famous, "What happened to Mr. Turner?!" [ Dave Coulier Confirms Uncle Joey's Return In Netflix Full House Revival/Spinoff Show! ] Well stars of [...]
Girl Meets World fans may get to see another familiar face from Boy Meets World. Hollywood Life reports that Ben Savage, who plays lovable and goofy Cory Matthews on the show, wants to see Jennifer Love Hewitt return as her fan favorite character “Feffy,” who was only seen in one episode. Show More Summary
Among all the charming stories in Shirley Jackson’s two charming midcentury memoirs of raising four charming children in the charming town of Bennington, Vermont, the one that I urge anyone who might ever want to write about his family to study like the Talmud is about a boy called Charles. Show More Summary
Joe Newton Last summer, I reconnected with a high-school teacher I hadn't seen for a year. We first met when I was 15, and I had nothing but respect for him and his intelligence. I also had a crush on him for the next four years. Fast-forward a year. Show More Summary
I'm a 29-year-old straight-ish woman in Illinois married for just over five years to a wonderful man who is 28. About a year ago, we were watching RuPaul's Drag Race clips and, for fun, I asked my husband if I could dress him up in drag. Show More Summary
I'm a 34-year-old mostly straight woman in the Southwest US. My amazing boyfriend is 30 and straight. We've been together about 2.5 years, and we love and respect each other dearly and deeply. Here's the issue: while we both prefer monogamy,...Show More Summary
She’s claimed Obama is the secret Muslim love child of Malcolm X and compared Muslims to savages. Meet the blogger behind the controversial Texas event that came under attack Sunday.
In his many years of doling out frank and sex-positive relationship advice, there’s one idea that Dan Savage has repeatedly revisited in the hopes of making his fans’ love lives better: human monogamy just isn’t all that natural. So many...
I'm a 34-year-old erotic massage therapist/hand job artist. It's interesting, gratifying, and I always have a good story to share with friends in the know. I love it. About six months ago I met a 78-year-old man in need of my services after grieving the loss of his wife. Show More Summary
Joe Newton My partner is 31 years older than I am. I know the math: He'll be 60 when I'm 29. But that isn't the problem. The issue is he's been a lifelong bachelor and never been monogamous. He's fucked hundreds of women and is close friends with a lot of his former fuck buddies. Show More Summary
You wrote in one of your columns awhile back: "It's amazing how well some people get along with their exes after they break up or divorce. People really seem to relax and enjoy each other once they let go of their expectations, once they're no longer trying to control each other, and once both are free to sleep with whoever they want. Show More Summary
Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta is back in full swing, which means the savage levels of ignorance are only elevating, exponentially…Continue.
You’ve given me good advice in the past and it has led me to casting aside previous baggage and settling down with a man whom I valued for being trusty, responsible and hard-working. The one downside: He's always been straight as an arrow, uninterested in kink or any non-traditional relationship options. Show More Summary